From the moment we are born, society, family, and culture begin shaping us. Before we even know who we are, we inherit beliefs, expectations, and limitations from those around us. These influences plant dreams within us—dreams that may not truly be our own.

But what if the reality you live in isn’t actually yours? What if, instead of consciously creating it, you simply inherited it?

Are You Dreaming, or Are You Awake?

Most people live inside a collective dream, shaped by conditioning. They believe in struggle, scarcity, and limitation—not because they chose to, but because they were taught to. They follow paths that were laid out for them, often without questioning whether those paths align with their true desires.

But waking up means asking: Am I living my dream, or someone else’s projection?

Think about the choices you’ve made—the career you pursued, the way you define success, even the way you see yourself. Were those choices made from your deepest truth, or were they shaped by expectations?

If Reality Is a Dream, Then You Are the Dreamer

Once you realize that reality is just a dream—a construct of beliefs, habits, and perspectives—you gain the power to change it. You are the dreamer, and you can dream something new.

Rumi asks, “Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open?”

You are not trapped. The life you live today is not set in stone. Instead of asking, “Is this my dream?” start asking:

   •   What dream do I want to step into?

   •   If money weren’t a factor, what would I create?

   •   If fear didn’t exist, how would I live?

When you embrace the truth that reality is fluid, that you are always co-creating with God, you stop feeling like a passive participant in life. You realize that, at any moment, you can choose a new vision, a new path, a new dream.

So if reality is just a dream, why not dream one you love?

Sitting here reading the Bible and challenging my thinking because my inner thoughts need some work. I feel like it’s a on going thing to keep working on challenging my inner thoughts. I have recently got to a healthy weight and have been in a good relationship all things that I didn’t have years ago so at times I struggle with the notion that I’m worthy of these things. That I have value and deserve a healthy relationship and a healthy body weight. Why it’s hard is what I digging deep to understand because my thinking can go like this, I’m thin now for now or I don’t want to bother him! What the mess of course I’m not actually a bother he has shown and told me so many times I’m more than enough but these thoughts still arise. I know I deserve to be a heated weight so my goal is to challenge these thoughts so I can feel of value and have better thinking. How can you challenge yourself to think better about yourself? For me blogging helps get out my thoughts and start to understand the why and address it. I know the relationship part is because pass relationship and I’m keep reminding myself that this relationship is and has nothing to do with the other. This is a healthy relationship filled with love and kindness! Is it perfect by no means but it’s healthy and thriving and will continue because we choose each other daily. As with my weight I know it has to do with being so heavy before and being told negative things that made me feel that’s what I deserved and that’s far from true! I deserve to be healthy and be told I look happy and healthy. I don’t deserve to be told I’m fat and lazy. I didn’t deserve it then and don’t deserve it now. So I will continue to work on these notions of untruth and love myself. God says to love ourselves not in a selfish way but in a way we see our value and worth because that’s how God sees us.

You know how people will say,” I wish I was…..?” Fill in the blank. We have all done it but why? Why do we want to be someone else, look like someone else or have something else? Now we all can and should thrive to be our best version but we don’t need to be something else because we are enough, I am enough. What would happen if we really focused on that? Focused on getting out of our heads and claiming that I’m enough? We would be more accepting of ourselves don’t you think? Reminding yourself that God made you the way you are and working daily to be the best version of that is enough! So I challenge you to challenge your inner thoughts and change that thinking!

I see it everywhere on social media on the shelves at the grocery stores….pictures of bodies, new diets, new workouts. What is more important than your body? Your character, your faith, your morals, your values! I’m not saying you should eat healthy and take care of your body I’m saying that it shouldnt be the most important thing. Body image is harmful when we just focus on the outer not the inner self. Its frustrating that all these advertisements are so focused on body. What would happen if the world focused less on body and more on what’s important your character, your intelligence, your value, your morals, your faith. At the end of the day what do you want said about you?

You are capable, you are strong, you are resilient and have a beautiful heart. These are the words I hear when I am raising my children especially Ava. There will be as with all children tantrums, tears, resistance and just pain hard mental days but at the end of the day it is beautiful. She is her own person, yes with many delays(so many) but she is not her delays they do not define her. What defines her is her heart, her strength, her capabilities. Ava can sign simple signs. It’s hard due to her hand and arm movements, due to her mixed tone but she is capable. She is smart she knows what she wants and how to tell is even if we might not understand the first time. It might be the third time with tears but we get there. She isn’t walking or crawling but man can she scoot all over the place to get what she wants. She is determined! She is kind and has the best smile and laughs so hard when interacting with the ones she loves. She cant talk but sure does show you she loves you, needs you and wants you.

It’s the way we think, the way we view our world. When we have responsibilities and look at as tiring, overwhelming and just too much no matter the responsibility we are going to be more angry, upset and negitive. Life can be hard but working on our mind set how we think about thinks will help us be happier, be able to view it differently. We need to understand that caring for others either it be a spouce, children, family member, neighbor, friend and/or community in any aspect should be viewed as a privilege not a burden. A privilege to bless them and love them. That we get this opportunity to work with and take care of them. It can be a challenge to change our thinking and a daily reminder but it will come easier. With this mindset doing your responsibilities will become easier and a joy. We are humans do we will fail but what matters is dusting off and trying again to change your mindset. Life is beautifully chaotic. When you feel yourself getting upset, angry, overwhelmelmed, tired take a moment to remind yourself that the work you are doing is a privilege and name things you like about what it is your doing. Example could be a job. Let’s say it’s hard and tiring and you really don’t care for it. Think of reasons your working there and what you off to the job no matter the size wether small or big it matters. This will help remind you and help you be happier with the situation. What we focus on and how our mindset is really impacts our lives.  

I do but not like you see lol. I had my two year old in my lap and 3 year old I had to give his tablet so he wouldn’t wrestle me lol
But all that aside it was nice. It was calming. I choose to just sit still and focus on my breathing then just thanked God for what all I’m grateful for….was ended quicker than wanted but it was nice. Prayer sometimes as silly as it seems can be intimidating. Blah
I know it shouldn’t feel that way and I need to remember there is no perfect pray and it’s about relationship. I continue to ask myself, to remind myself how do you get deeper relationships? You talk. you share, you listen, you breath.
It’s not as hard as I make it lol but still sometimes its hard.
You know when I meet new people I  might seem friendly and I am but I also struggle with what to say. Dont we all? Praying is like that but sometimes it’s okay to be silent, to be still.

That feels like so much! How can I ever accomplish that? We all know these phrases too well playing on repeat in our minds. Making it overwhelming to at times even start a change, a project, a goal or if you do attempt it to finish it. The truth is it only seems hard or overwhelming. It really is all in our thinking. When we are wanting to change or accomplish something the success is really in our own mindsets. Take for example the forever journey that everyone knows to well of losing weight. You think I need to plan my food, my exercise, count calories, drink so much water how will I ever do it all. It is complicated and stressful but the truth is it really is not. Yes, we do need to be mindful of what we put in our bodies and be more active. The truth is its our mindsets. When we realize that we deserve to eat well and feel healthily it is easier to accomplish. Changing our thinking to I deserve this and why will take you along way. This is with anything in life. I struggle with, just like any other parent out there, being enough. The crazy questions we think about as parents and the constant worry. The reality is that we are enough as long as we are doing our own personal best.. What others are doing does not matter as a parent. Only our children matter. So when we change our thinking to what they need in this moment and what do I need instead of what are others going to think. It becomes easier. I realize that this is not a over night mindset change. It takes practice like anything else. We will be better, become better, not perfect but better. Perfection is a allusion its not reality. Our own personal best is the reality.

In every situation there is a solution, our mindset is our best friend or our worst enemy. ~Melissa Robison

In a church gym with 20 other moms and about 30 children no one sees Ava. She plays on the floor. She sits in her adaptive chair playing with other kids. She sits in her adaptive stroller watching the moms workout and grinning. We must look funny. Us, moms are doing a dance type workout called high fitness. It’s a blast but I swear Ava thinks we are so silly jumping around waving our arms. She really prefers sitting in her chair must be overwhelming to get on the floor when so much movement is taking place. I would be nerves also. Then one time she decides that it’s ok to lay on the floor. She can reach tous better and the other kids play with her more. How exciting for her to get out of her comfort zone. She is unable to walk or crawl but she can scoot on her back. No one has really noticed her delays. I’m sure because she is so little. Many people think she is a year but she is just over 2. Nothing is as they seem. With her stroller people have comment what a cool stroller were did you get it.

Sometimes we have to relize that what people or going through physically or mentally is not always that visual and to be understanding and open.